Father Pens Letter Disowning His Gay Son – What’s Your Relationship With Your Father?

There are good fathers. Then there are bad fathers. People can debate all day over the importance of having a father in your life. No matter the argument or claims, the dynamics between father and son are building blocks for the future.

The disturbing letter reads:

“James: This is a difficult but necessary letter to write. I hope your telephone call was not to receive my blessing for the degrading of your lifestyle. I have fond memories of our times together, but that is all in the past.

Don’t expect any further conversations With me. No communications at all. I will not come to visit, nor do I want you in my house. You’ve made your choice though Wrong it may be. God did not intend for this unnatural lifestyle.

If you choose not to attend my funeral, my friends and family will understand. Have a good birthday and good life. No present exchanges will be accepted.



Earlier this month, we plugged a great project that really speaks volumes as to why these conversations must be held. In the documentary Dear Dad,” gay black men are telling stories on their relationships with their fathers. Eight Peace Productions introduces us to 10 diverse same-sex gender loving men living in Atlanta. We’ve even dedicated an entire issue to Father’s Day because here at MUSED we know the appreciate has to be there- even if he was or wasn’t there.

What’s your relationship like with your father? Share your thoughts about the letter with us. Speak out!

  • Jay Lamonte

    My father stop talking to me not because I was gay, he was cool with that. He stopped talking to be because I look like my mother and I remind him of the mistake he made by cheating on her. Definitely has affected my relationships with me however it’s important to get therapy and move on with your life. Be happy.

  • Cold Fire

    Thats just so sad, but the best the boy can do is go on to be very successful and never think this is the end. Life does go on and ignorant people live another day to be just that. My father and I never speak about it because aint nothing to talk about. Ive never dated or anything like that so who cares. My parents believe in loving everyone so they dont care.

  • http://www.facebook.com/people/Viktor-T-Kerney/750098735 Viktor T. Kerney

    It was tough for my partner when he got it this letter, but he’s fine. However, it was shocking to deal with at first

  • cjayconrod

    I always wonder what parents think they’re doing by cutting off their children. I understand if you don’t “agree with their lifestyle,” but ostracizing you child is supposed to do what for them? I just don’t get it, at all.

  • cjayconrod

    I often what what parents think they’re doing by cutting off their children. I mean, I understand if you “don’t agree with the lifestyle,” but what good will ostracizing them do? How does that benefit them, or yourself? I loved the “Have a good birthday and good life” part. Really? Smh…