5 Things I’ve Learned From Having Gay Friends

Friendship is the basis of human existence. I’m not sure there is anything more beautiful than friendship, in its truest form. Our first example comes in the womb. Think about it: we spend nine months forming a bond that proves difficult to penetrate. In fact, many may not realize it, but we spend a great deal of our time in search of ways to replicate this relationship with others. The multitude of reasons we seek friendship remains endless.  For some, it’s a service of validation, an offering of worth, of unconditional support, and love that we often are unable to find within ourselves. Others enjoy the limelight; the advantage (and disadvantage) of stepping out onto “the scene” with a clique of bad girls who proclaim to boss down. Still there are some, few and far in between, who are here just to be a friend; to offer sound advice without judgment, and maintain a listening ear. Whichever may be the case, these are the five things you will without a shadow of doubt I’ve learned from having gay friends.

1. The gays are overwhelmingly loyal.

The stanning for celebrities and mass reading only hits the tip of the iceberg when it comes to gays and their loyalty. A gay friend will ride out for you, with you, without question or hesitation. It’s defend now, ask questions later. We will fight anybody, hell bring on David and Goliath.

2. The gays cannot be trusted.

And that’s no shade; however, when it comes down to it, the reality is that you can only find a gay man to be but so trustworthy. Each gay has his own agenda, whether or not it’s paved with good intentions. That being said, take precautionary action and don’t provide anyone the opportunity to take advantage.

3. The gays believe in competition.

It’s hard to distinguish if this quality is good or bad in most instances. Particularly because I find that a gay man wants to be the very best among all. It can drive you to be better, to dress better, and to do better. Friend or foe, the goal is to be superior, regardless of the endeavor. The gays will get you together.

4. The girls gays just want to have fun.

Who doesn’t? The truth is that gay people believe in life and living it. There aren’t many things more fun than ki ki –ing with my girlfriends. Any time we’re together, despite the situation, is always a good time. There is never a dull moment.

5. The gays are god know everything!

Let me tell you this, if there is anything you need to know about anyone or anything turn to the gays! For one reason or another, society has decided she feels most comfortable keeping her secrets with gay men. I don’t mind it. They may not always choose to spill, but when the tea does, listening to the convo of gay men will give you your whole entire life.

At the end of the day, we are all human. No two people are alike and certainly, neither, are any two gay men. I believe that we are some of the most talented, creative, caring individuals in the world. Writing this, I managed to play into many stereotypes facing this community but that doesn’t deem my opinion false, biased, or unfairly presented. Personally, I can see myself being each individual in the aforementioned examples. Some things I am not especially proud of, and others I consider regrets. Such is life.  I have, at this point, about four gay friends I constantly surround myself with, and for that I’m grateful. Everything about them isn’t astonishing, by any means, but each moment offers a learning experience. My gay friends girlfriends have given me the opportunity to be myself; wholeheartedly, they’ve given me the opportunity of trial and error as I grow in search of the person I want to be; and, that’s the prized possession I walk away with. That’s the thing, I have learned most from having gay friends.

  • JAM

    this is why i dont identify with ” the gays”…….. im a homosexual man…… Gay is an adjective… not a lifestyle………

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    • http://twitter.com/KEiTH_ANDRE Keith Andre Collins

      Dear Sir, the argument isn’t based on word choice. You can just as easily replay every time you see “the gays” with “homosexual men.” Either way, it wont change their behavior, nor what I have learned from them. No matter what you call yourself, you’re still included.

  • http://www.facebook.com/caacrawford C.a. Crawford


    • http://twitter.com/KEiTH_ANDRE Keith Andre Collins

      ha! lets talk about it..

  • http://twitter.com/RaafiqRene IG: RaafiqRene

    Dope sh*t. And the truest thing a gay ever wrote!

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  • http://www.facebook.com/ZionMarQuiese.Devereaux Zion MarQuiese Devereaux

    I agree with all of them except for #1- homosexuals are only loyal to themselves.