For The Last Time, Single Black Mothers Don’t Make Gay Sons!
Atlanta radio personality and YouTuber Tommy Sotomayor recently pronounced from his own scientific study that single black mothers are the sole reason black males are gay, resulting in them proudly rapping about “gay” sex.
He begins his rant with a disclaimer:
“I want to say this before I start off: I have no problem with a persona’s sexual orientation or a person’s want or need for sexual experimentation. Now with that said, these boys are the reason why we need to stop claiming that black children don’t need their fathers.”
Yes, because gay boys are the result of single-parent homes. After all those years of watching their mothers put on makeup and not throwing a football, and sneaking peaks at their father’s Playboys that has turned our black males gay. I guess it would be too much to equally hold men and women responsible for their reproductive choices. Single mothers are doing the best they can with the resources provided.
Being gay isn’t mathematical equation; it is who someone is. It’s not a trained behavior. James Baldwin didn’t know his father wasn’t his biological father until his teens. And mind you, Baldwin grew up in a “traditional” Christian home.
Sotomayor goes on to say, “The black race looks like the 80s. You don’t know who is what. The women look like men, the men look like women.”
I guess Sotomayor has never heard of David Bowie, Glam Rock or lived in the United Kingdom during the late 1970s and 80s. And I guess all those rioters from the Stonewall Riots where all the victims of fatherless homes.
The idea that single mothers are the authors of black male deviant behavior reeks of misogyny, homophobia, sexism, racism and classism.
But I’m glad Sotomayor made his remarks. It’s time to have serious, open discussions about single black motherhood, absent fathers and the black community at large. Far too long gayness has been labeled a curse on single black mothers when we all know that is far from the truth. But we have let people like Sotomayor drive the conversation and shape what we are about.
So this week, take the time out to let Sotomayor and others know your story. Single mothers (plus) sexual assault does not equal gay. Strong female influences minus strong father influences does not equal gay.
If you haven’t seen the video of the teenagers raping about oral sex that has been making rounds online, be sure to check it out below. Thanks for the tip from our good friend, Jared Michael Lowe!