Photo Of Black Gay Father Couple Causes Black Twitter To Overact… But Why?

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Being fathers is getting our daughters up at 5:30 am making breakfast getting them dressed for school and putting them on the bus by 6:30 .This is a typical day in our household . It’s not easy but we enjoy every moment and eveny minute of #fatherhood .#proudfathers #blackfathers #prouddads #gaydads

This photo of the couple Kaleb and Kordell getting their daughters ready for school was floating around Twitter yesterday. From my view, this is a beautiful image of two strong fathers taking care of their children; however, Black Twitter didn’t see it that way.

I’m not going to list peoples’ comments or anything of the like because ignorance doesn’t belong on MUSED. It wasn’t the negative comments that surprised me, but the positive ones: “Finally a black gay couple.” Now, that wasn’t all the comments but most of the nice things said hit on two things:

1. The fact that this was a black gay couple.

2. That it was nice to see black men taking care of children.

Sigh.

Are we that sheltered from black gay couples that the general public doesn’t think they exist? But, can you blame them? There is hardly an image of “gay” love that features people of color. In the heat of  national marriage equality campaigns, if you google black gay couple you get bunch of Tumblr links. This is not like the in-depth articles when you google the opposite. It’s almost like black gay couples don’t exist – but we do.

Our love does exist, our relationships are real and they are flourishing. There are many of us out here, some of us are parents, some of us are young, and some of us are married or planning to do so. I don’t want our community, of all communities, to not be able to see themselves when they think about what it means to be a couple. It’s very easy to think that love, marriage and commitment are only for our white counterparts. Hell, we barely get a black gay character on TV let alone a couple.

Overall, the point is that Kaleb and Kordell are not unicorns. They are one of many. Their love is beautiful just like the rest of us. We exist and we have to be our own image of “gay” love.

You can also check out BuzzFeed’s 25 Beautiful Photos of Queer Men of Color in Love.

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Beyond Steven is a writer, media lover and borderline alcoholic. He has an obsession with boys, foolery and cherry coke. You can find him on Twitter being an insightful hoodrat.

  • African King

    Very nice!

  • gossip gurl

    some people need to raise they kids befor they can judge these two sexy blk gay men YES HUNTY WERK

    • Otunba Omotayo Olufosoye

      we live in an open society we should learn to live together regardless of sexual orientation

  • http://twitter.com/drewshane Drew-Shane

    Between this photo and “Being Mary Jane” shower scene, I am heading to the gym. Beautiful!

  • http://www.urban-society.de hassia

    Beautiful.

  • Camella

    Thank you for addressing this necessary view. I sighed the same time you did and I am grateful that you voiced this. :)

    • BeyondSteven

      Thanks! I’m glad you liked you.

  • Josiah

    I must admit that my heart skips a beat when I see one Black gay man being loved…by another Black gay man. It may not be a common sight, but it sure as he’ll is a beautiful one. The fact that these two are heads of a family make it all the more sweet.

    • BeyondSteven

      Mine does too. I just hope that one day a black gay couple will be the “norm” instead of the “rare”. Thanks for your comment.

  • Derrick Templeton

    Loving each other as we love ourselves. Hats off

  • TroublesomeFly

    THIS IS THE BEST PHOTO OF THE YEAR SO FAR!!! I love it.
    Screw the haters.

  • Dustin

    beautiful photo. its a family for crying out loud people

  • Charles Arias

    i thought that was joe budden

  • ronmoule

    A good report.with important questions. Excellent: but what about black press and media too?

    • BeyondSteven

      I don’t think the questions were simply geared toward mainstream “white” media, everyone has to do a better job portraying people of color in love.

  • http://abercrombie.com/ Abercrombie & Fitch Co.

    I think it’s more so that they’re topless that makes people uneasy. I’m happy and proud of them. +1 for black dads. +1 for gay dads. Finally society can see there’s more to gay people than clubbing, sex, fashion shows and parades.

    • BeyondSteven

      Even if that was the case, what is wrong with being topless? Men are topless all over TV, magazine etc. Why does two gay men being topless equal outrage?

    • Lisaswaterfall

      How is being in your house, in your bathroom, with NO GENITALIA showing “topless” exactly? I’m confused about this. Are people really that ridiculous and oversexualized that we now have to pretend we always have clothes on all the time? That our children are only supposed to see us fully clothed all the time, even in our homes? I just can’t with this.

      • Jay, King of Gay

        I don’t get it, either. When did men being topless become risque? Since when are we supposed to be more dressed in our own homes than we are at the beach?
        Is the victorian era coming back?

      • Sean Metcalf

        The odd thing is that they took a picture of this moment. Now all the internet is seeing it, and as a consequence it seems public and weird. People respond but find it hard to articulate that point, so they just complain about it vaguely and next thing you know, outrage backlash. The internet is becoming like a formula of the same shit over and over again.

      • :)

        “How is being in your house, in your bathroom, with NO GENITALIA showing “topless” exactly?”

        Well, by not wearing a top or anything covering your upper body, you are topless. I have no problem with it, but you were asking for a technical description, so there you have it. (Remember: female breasts aren’t genitalia either.)

        But yes, some people are ridiculous and especially in – deeply religious countries such as – the US very prude in sexual regards, which only increases tenfold if it concerns gay people or blacks (guess we hit the jackpot with a black gay couple, lol). Luckily not everybody thinks in such a way.

    • Shannon Hubbell

      If this were a straight father with his child, no one — and I mean no one — would be upset about him not wearing a shirt.

  • Dsuberu

    Awesome… To see that brothers are making it for themselves as appose to it being a mixed raced gay couple! (Not that am again mixed raced coupling… Just seeing to black brothers together making a happy home gives me a sense of solidarity!

    • BeyondSteven

      This is one of those negative comments trying to pose as a positive one, that I mentioned above. Thanks for commenting though.

      • mickym0nk3y

        Actually, he has a point. I mean, it seems like when there are Black gay folks in relationships with white partners, they get more attention because mainstream (white) audiences have more to relate to. Its refreshing to see two black men <3 *solidarity*

  • Mz Henn

    This is what they are supposed to be doing. They are fathers that happen to be a couple and happen to be black. Alot of the opposite are not doing what is required of them. Leave them alone.

  • Eru Ilùvatar

    Why can’t they be unicorns? Black unicorns are beautiful too.

    • BeyondSteven

      haha. Because unicorns are something that is fictional. They are not fictional, black gay couples, and black gay fathers are not fictional. That’s the point.

      • Shannon Hubbell

        “Because unicorns are something that is fictional.”

        Wait, what… Oh, god.

        *runs away sobbing*

  • Keshia Cotton

    Unfortunately homosexuality only has negative connotations in the black community and we aren’t really exposed to positive images of the Gay community. When the black community thinks of male homosexuality they think mostly disease, tattoos, piercings, hair color, two snaps in z formation and stuff like that. It is a shame. More black Gay men that are doing positive things in life, who are successful, influential, productive should be able to come forward and display these attributes but unfortunately when they do like these gentlemen did they get judged, insulted, degraded. It’s really is such a shame

    • AJ

      “Unfortunately homosexuality only has negative connotations in the black community..” That statement is so not true. There are segments of ALL communities that attach stigma to homosexuality.

      • foulmouth

        Homosexuality is looked at the worst in the black community_ because of Islam & Christianity _ if u want to get technical

      • groggyduck

        I think what Keshia meant, is that in the black community, there is no positive side to being a black gay male. It’s so frowned upon that (it seems like) a majority of black gay men are “on the down low” to save their image. To the black community, there is no “masculine gay male”, just a little pansy-boy.

  • confusedbytheinternet

    why is the facebook preview pic for this article the cast of Girls?

  • Jason Park

    Most homophobia, racism and other forms of bias are so ingrained, even the perpetrators aren’t aware of it on a conscious level, and THAT is the problem.

    • Sean Metcalf

      nice unfalsifiable argument

      • Jason Park

        Thanks pal! :)

  • rj

    I dont see anything wrong with a gay couple raising kids…but what i do see wrong is that they are half naked taking pictures doing their daughters hair…now thats inappropriate if anything…and i personally dont like when anyone straight or gay feels the need 2 show off their parenting by taking pics of it…it just comes off as kind of fake

    • BeyondSteven

      Sorry you feel that way. It’s kind of ridiculous that thought of men playing with their daughters “half-naked” in a pool is acceptable, but being shirtless any other time isn’t. We live in a world where photos and status updates is how people communicate, this photo is no different than people posting random FB statuses about their children or daily routine. Thanks for your comment.

      • Jay, King of Gay

        I don’t see anything inappropriate about it. My own, straight, father walked around the house in a pair of shorts just like the red ones in the picture.

        • Everybodhi

          My dad, as well. And he had tattoos on his chest that he got after WWII.
          He never helped me get ready for school, however.
          His generation participated very little with their families.

      • rj

        Ok you tell me to get my mind out of the gutter…but my mind wouldnt be in the gutter if they just put clothes on….see i have seen these guys on Facebookand seen them around Atlanta….and they are what I call ATTENTION WHORES….not come off mean or ddisrespectful…but its true….so you all see this picture as parents just taking care of these girls…but trust me its not that black and white….call me a hater but i just see this picture being very oostentatious and inappropriate

        • endtheecho

          The fact they are in their home getting ready for the day with their kids, and your supposed issue is the lack of clothing on their torso means you are the one that is sexualizing their state of dress or undress.

          But it looks like your real issue is that you feel these two fathers are attention whores. Well fine then leave it at that, don’t bring that other made up garbage into it.

          Personally, I think as a society we get way to many examples of men that fail to step up to their parenting responsibilities, so a picture like this is a nice counter to that narrative. And something that so many fathers do, day in and out, but isn’t something that is shown as a positive nearly enough.

        • rj

          No its not just about them being attention whores and I believe I want see eye to eye with a lot of you all because we have different opinions on how to raise children and what is appropriate to do around children and what’s not appropriate to do around children. See my parents NEVER walked around the house half naked…My mother wore a robe and my father wore a white t-shirt and some pajama pants. Now behind their closed doors they may have walked around butt naked, but never around me and my siblings, nor did they use profanity around us because children pick up what they see and hear their parents do. So obviously our perspectives on child rearing are different because how we were raised. So when you all see this pic as being appropriate and/or adorable, I’m sorry but I DONT. Does it make me wrong?…No…Does it make you all wrong?…No…Its simply what we call “different strokes for different folks”. If you all raise your children in that manner that’s your business, but Kordale and Kaleb put it out there 4 people 2 see…so they have to deal with the good and the bad of this pic and unfortunately I guess I’m apart of the bad according to you all….LOL…oh well its just my opinion

        • jerriblank

          If you’re saying now that different people just have different ideas for how to raise kids, and that’s cool, then I think everyone agrees with you. But that’s not what you originally said, and that’s why everyone responded. You should probably edit this part, since you no longer agree with it:

          “…but what i do see wrong is that they are half naked taking pictures
          doing their daughters hair…now thats inappropriate if anything”

        • rj

          Lol…i like it how you guys are trying 2 catch me up with everything Ive said in this forum….so i should have started my whole comment about the list of things about this pic that I personally see as inappropriate…Regardless anyway the majority of you all are trying to find something wrong in everything i say about this pic just simply because I choose not to agree with you all…and thats cool but this pic will always be inappropriate to me because of the parents being attention whores half dressed in front of their daughters…Plain and simple its so much thats WRONG wit this pic and i stand by that…but its my opinion and last i checked we all are entitled to our opinions…and its funny how everyone is defending this one pic as though you all know anything about these characters…just as much as i cant prove to all that they are inappropriate dressing attention whores more concerned about how they look in this pic than their daughters….question…..can any of you guys prove their not just from this one pic?….i can answer that…NO…but i respect you all opinions and i hope you can do the same 4 me…

        • Jay, King of Gay

          you see a shirtless man and your mind goes into the gutter immediately?
          That’s on you, not him. Your mind is in the gutter because that’s where your mind went. You are responsible for what goes on in your head, not anyone else. If an image of a shirtless man bothers you that much, then you need to change. Your reaction is your responsibility, not anyone elses.

        • HRISTOPH WILSON

          AS INVITED TO DO SO, I MUST OBLIGE….. HATER

    • Sephiroths_Wife

      I think you need to get your mind out of the gutter and realize that the human body is natural and we aren’t born with clothes on (although maybe you were) Some people are completely naked in their houses all the time because wearing clothing doesn’t feel natural and that’s just fine as long as there’s no ill intent.

    • Bo

      I think focusing on the fact that they’re topless is ridiculous, there is no problem with this. I think there is far more likely to have an issue when people raise their children to be afraid of their own bodies and feel it’s something that needs to be covered & hidden at all times. I also don’t think this is so much about showing off their parenting, more just a snapshot of a normal, happy family doing normal things which I think makes it all the more beautiful. I would much rather see this than a picture of them all fully covered head to toe in Sunday best with fake smiles in posed positions. I honestly don’t understand how it’s inappropriate? Should the dads be getting up at 0500 in order to ensure they’re correctly attired to your satisfaction before seeing to their daughters needs?

  • Kordale N Kaleb

    @KordaleNKaleb on IG

  • Bee

    Hurting that poor baby’s head! Lol I do love this picture though.

  • Mugandawawu

    Beyond Steven, next time get Tyler Perry feature a black gay couple on t
    “The Haves and Have Nots”…. This might sound to you as another ignorant profiling post….but the reality us our major source of information aka “miainstreeam media” does not feed us plenty of such imagines to make BGCs “the norm”…in our ‘glasshoused lives':)

    • BeyondSteven

      I don’t think Tyler Perry’s portrayal of YET ANOTHER DL black gay man is what we need. But I do agree we need more images of us in the media, as noted above. Thanks for commenting.

      • Kaibelf

        Why does it need to be DL? He can just as easily just make it a nice, normal gay couple. It’s not like having the guy be out magically breaks Tyler’s computer.

  • Meri Justus

    Beautiful picture of a loving family. And as for the haters, they need to mind their own business, and quit worrying about what other people are doing.

  • Arje Jackson

    I cannot count how many times I’ve seen my mother naked growing up. When she was in a hurry and needed to get us ready, sometimes she did it naked. Many cultures the parent are naked around their kids all the time. I didn’t grew up with any kind of Oedipus Complexes. People criticize too much in this era. Fill up the space of criticism and condescension by feeding hungry children, finding shelter for homeless, teaching under privilege children. Do something and say nothing.

    • Christopher

      same here Arje, people tend to overreact about things. I can’t count the countless number of times I saw my mom naked while she was getting me ready for the day. To me I saw it as nothing but normal.

    • HRISTOPH WILSON

      GETTING READY FOR WORK AND TO TAKE US TO OUR G-MAS TO GO TO SCHOOL. MY MOTHER WOULD BE STARK NAKED GETTING OUT THHE BATHROOM TO HER BEDROOM . IF WE WERE IN THE WAY, OH WELL. SO IT WAS NEVER A BIG DEAL TO US MY GREAT G-MA WAS NOT SCARED TO CHANGE TOPS IN FRONT OF US EITHER…AND WHY SHOULD SHE? WE NEVER THOUGHT ANYTHING OF IT….AS LONG A MEN ARE NOT SHOWING REPRODUCTIVE ORGANS AROUND LITTLE GIRLS THEN I SEE NOTHING WRONG WITH IT.

  • Multicultural

    Looks like a beautiful family to me. . . What’s the problem?

  • Bj Lincoln

    Looks like a happy family getting ready for the day. I guess it is rare for a black gay couple to post a great photo of family life. Maybe if we saw more, it would not be a surprise to some.
    Some people just don’t get that families come in all sizes, shapes and colors. As long as there is love, what does it matter?

  • Dick

    The only shocking thing about this picture is that they have an iphone 5c.

    • HRISTOPH WILSON

      YEAH…YOU’D THINK THEY WOULD HAVE ENOUGH SENSE TO GET A REAL PHONE LIKE AN S4…..JEEZZ

      • Dick

        The s4 is even worse, better phones are the htc one or simply the iphone 5s. But I don’t want to argue about some fucking dude/couple’s phone choice, my comment was sarcastic.

        • HRISTOPH WILSON

          THAT IS ALL OPINION WHO CARES? I WAS JUST JOKING AROUND..EVEN THOUGH I DON’T LIKE ANYTHING MAC, I NEVER INTENDED TO GO OFF SUBJECT AND DISCUSS ANYONE’S “BETTER” PHONE OPINION. HOWEVER I STILL STAND BY WHAT I SAID. S4 IS BETTER WITH THAT UNNECESSARILY NARROW VIDEO WINDOW THAT UPHONE HAS… SMH. BUT THE PICTURE IS NOT INAPPROPRIATE. AND UPHONE WAS SAID ON PURPOSE.

    • Crystal Blissfully-Married Fow

      LOL…what is DICK^^^…literally…LMBO!

    • Mike B

      This is the BEST.

  • stopdestroying

    Whats sad is we don’t see enough black faces representing our lives. Also, for those haters, they should take pride in knowing that some men are playing a role! #appreciategodsvision

  • Smarts

    wait… first off I wanna see what people said on the gentle men twitter feed to see if this article is for real. 2nd so what their gay. 3rd they got kids that’s cool. 4th there isn’t anything wrong with the picture, except for maybe half naked men with children, could be sending a wrong message. Besides that… if those men are the loving parents of the children then its fine.

    • Michael C.

      They are bare chested. What is the wrong msg there?

    • endtheecho

      That is weird, when I go to the swimming pool without a shirt, same for my father and brother in law. It doesn’t seem to be weird for my niece or nephew. You were doing so well until you said #4.

    • mmmdot

      What are they supposed to wear bras to cover their nipples? ::EYEROLL::

  • MRadclyffe

    If USA gays think they have it bad, try gay represenation of ethnic peoples in the so-much-more enlightened UK. Or anywhere else in the world. Like um… Nigeria, Uganda, India… Try just BEING gay there. Right? Now, STFU just look at the lovely picture, smile, go out there and be thankful.

    • groggyduck

      Just because other places have it worse, doesn’t mean that ANYONE should stop striving for a better situation.

      • Kakes

        Ugh! Of all the reactions, this one makes my blood boil the worst. “Other people have it worse so stfu?” Okay, well there are several countries in which the residents don’t even have running water so who cares if 300,000 people in West Virginia have a few chemicals in their water supply? In some parts of the world, people are forced to go days without eating so who cares about hormones in our foods or GMOs? In other words, MRadclyffe, STFU and take a seat. I’ll even provide you with one _/

  • conect2u

    In any responsible/loving home you’d see the same interaction between parents & kids, morning preparation for the school day. Beautiful scene…. made me smile,,,,,except for the prospect of rolling out of bed at 5:30 am (ugh)

  • raferkelly@raferkelly.com

    This picture & story is wonderful. It is stories like this that bring us out of the shadows and into the light as real people with the similar life challenges and triumphs as any other. The more visible we are, the less we can be falsely defined – instead, we get to define ourselves as our true and valuable selves. Kudos to these two – we need more of, not less of what these are; strong, brave, caring, loving, black fathers, who just also happen to be gay.

  • Tom Tait

    I think its a beautiful picture! It’s life. It’s love, it’s home. So what if they are shirtless? They probably just rolled out of bed and poor guys and kids getting up at that hour of the am…. LOL I say its a beautiful thing and nothing wrong with it in the slightest.

  • Isaac Colver

    The reason why we don’t see pics like these is because the gay community is a white supremacist construct. They promote white gay couples in love and in prosperity, yet when the show black gay men, it is usually something less than flattering. This picture probably will not make it into mainstream gay media because it will break the perception that white gay men are superior and the be all of the gay world. I love black gay men and black gay love.

    • phxflyguy

      I’m white and my partner is black. I don’t agree with your take on this at all. Judging from the comments here, not many other people do either.

      • Isaac Colver

        Many people do agree with me though. Of course you don’t agree, but the mainstream of the gay community is white. There might be a few handful of minorities sprinkled in there like Wilson Cruz who might as well have blonde hair and blue eyes himself.

        • Erica

          I figured that we don’t see pics like this because the black mainstream media finds homosexuality strongly distasteful…

        • koopapoopas

          Morons like Steve Harvey would get confused, have a fit, and then say something from the 1950s about it.

        • mmmdot

          Because the racist gay white people who’ve been supporting Shirley Q Liquor, a racist gay white drag queen who doing BLACKFACE, are any better? They’ve been supporting this guy for a decade over the objections of many gay and straight black people and they don’t give a f**k.

        • Isaac Colver

          We have confirmed that the black community is homophobic…but the gay community is also quite racist as well. Not blatantly, but subtly. The mainstream of the gay community is white, and the mainstream of the black community is straight.

        • mmmdot

          Thank you! And I’d go as far to say that the gay community can be blatantly racist as well. A few years ago there were a few lawsuits in San Francisco against a white gay club owner that was using discriminatory practices to keep black people out of his club, including black gay men. And that was even if the black gay man came with his white friends. I’m black and gay and there’s a reason I really don’t f**k with any of the mainstream (white) gay organizations anymore. Homophobia will make me mad, but racism will completely make me get ugly with people. I know a lot of other gay black people who feel the same.

        • Kakes

          As a straight, black female I have to agree. Images like the one that sparked this whole debate are few and far in between. Whenever black gay men are shown in the media — both gay media as well as black media — they are depicted as being extremely flamboyant, over the top, and overly sexualized. It got to the point where I myself started to believe that was actually the case. Until I had the opportunity to befriend black, gay men in real life, who showed me that just as the mainstream media likes to depict black women in a negative light, so it is with gay, black men. Personally, however, I don’t waste my time trying to explain this to whites. It’s extremely difficult to understand these kinds of things when you’ve never been the Other. Although you would think that the white gay community would sort of understand having been (and still are) seen and treated as outsiders but I suppose it’s somewhat comforting to have someone to feel superior to, especially after having been made to feel inferior for so long.

      • mmmdot

        http://www.derailingfordummies.com/derail-using-retaliation/

        Well I Know Another Person From Your Group Who Disagrees!

        This one is fantastic to bring out if you feel at all backed into a corner. If, for example, the marginalized person is making sense and you’re beginning to get the unpleasant feeling that you were wrong about something, just whip up your friend – your black friend, or your trans friend, your friend with a mental illness, or your friend who is a sex worker, and vehemently express how they completely and stridently support your opinions on these issues.Of course, you must make out as though you are entirely oblivious to internalized stigma and how your friends may have been adversely affected by discrimination wielded by the Privileged®. And, as established by the steps above, it is imperative that you discount the diversity of experience whilst seeming to support it. After all, your friend is proof that there are different opinions among this marginalized group but the fact they agree with you means you don’t have to in the least give credence to ideas alternative to your own, and certainly not from the marginalized person in question.Plus it gives you that handy progressive veneer – see, all their accusations of racism/sexism/ableism/what have you are totally groundless because you have friends who are representatives from that group which shows how open-minded and awesomely cool you really are!

        You know what the best part about this step is? The friend doesn’t even have to exist! That’s right, the friend can be nothing more than a figment of your imagination, conjured up to provide you with vicarious backup in your hour of need! How is the marginalized person going to prove it, after all! They can have their suspicions but that’s hardly hard evidence. You’re definitely ahead in the game now!

    • Sean Metcalf

      you just made that shit up

    • ROUGHNECK

      HAHAHAHAH. Shut up dude.

    • Jay Smith

      I don’t think that has anything to do with the White supremacist construct in this case… I think it has to do more with the black community in general due to masculinity issues, religion, etc. A lot of black men are raised to be tough, emotionless, and strong… Many people in the black community don’t believe that gays are tough or masculine, because every time we see gay people in the media, they are feminine and flamboyant which is a stereotype. Many black people also are heavily religious when it comes to homosexuality, at least they say they are. So it’s very frowned up in the black community to be out and homosexual, which is why many men choose to hide it. Whites are judgmental against gays as well, just not as much as the Black community IMO.

    • Matthew Shepherd

      I completely agree. As a man of colour I see how the ethnic people in the gay community are portrayed. My partner is white and we’ve had this conversation and he completely agrees, and I don’t think people should get offended by it. Just be aware of it.

    • Kaibelf

      Blah Blah Blah. Race card denied.

      • mmmdot

        Blah. Blah. Blah. How rude and ignorant can you freaking get? You just proved that his point that the gay community is racist when you say racist crap like someone is “pulling a race card” when they bring up a legitimate issue regarding racism. The only time white people say someone is “pulling the race card” is when they want to shut down a conversation about race and not have to actually address or be accountable for how racism negatively effects people of color. What do you think he’s making it up when he says there’s a lack of visibility for gay black men in gay media? And that when gay black men are depicted they often depicted in a negative and stereotypical way? Everyone with two brain-cells to rub together can at the VERY LEAST deduce that there is visibility problem with black people in LGBT media, even if you can’t bring your ignorant self to acknowledge that the gay community is consistently racist. Your response is so dismissive, disrespectful, and racist there are no freaking words for it. I’m black and I’m gay and I can tell you from personal experience there’s a reason why lots of black gay people feel alienated from or straight up can’t stand the mainstream (white) gay community. I’ll give you one good guess why: it’s s**t like this.

        • waffledoctor87

          No.

        • mmmdot

          GROW UP.

      • Kakes

        Ah, the old “race card”. White America’s way of refraining from looking inward and questioning their own thoughts, feelings, and motivations in regards to race by placing the blame and the burden on those that they have wronged and oppressed. Your response was both cowardly and juvenile. Word of advice: grow up and grow a pair. That goes for you and all the lemmings that up-voted that sorry excuse for a comment.

    • mmmdot

      I completely agree with you! Anyone with two braincells to rub together knows that the LGBT community is racist and that white mainstream LGBT media doesn’t often depict gay black people and when they do many times it’s a negative portrayal. The mainstream LGBT has a visibility problem when it comes to LGBTS of color. Ignore the ignorant and racist morons.

    • MarieKersey

      To me there is such a problem with saying – “the gay community” is this that or the other. Who is the gay community… the people who participate in any sort of “gay event” or the or the organizations? All of them? All the larger ones? Racist as in hostile, or as in white-dominated and largely neglecting and ignoring issues they don’t personally relate to?
      If it’s the people… how many of them? More than straight whites?
      The thing is I’ve also seen examples of all those things, so I’m not saying you’re wrong, but then you add this dimension of, gay white men as a group have an agenda to keep up a perception that they’re superior or the only gay people. And I know for a fact that doesn’t apply to many white gay men I know, who actively work for the opposite. Are they a small minority? Maybe, I have no idea, I hope not – I’ve seen things that have made me frustrated though. But here you make it sound like there are NO anti-racist white gays and that’s just not correct.

  • Eva

    I like this picture. It captures how I feel every morning getting ready for the day with my family.

  • Lester Raeford

    Wow….This is very interesting.

  • St Martyr

    Why has no one mentioned that the kids don’t know they are gay because they don’t want the kids to turn out gay because they think being gay is abnormal?! Damn, black people are something else. This inner simple irrational hatred we have for ourselves be it skin tone or sexuality. 72 comments of praise and NO ONE thinks it’s warped to bring up children thinking being gay is bad. SMDH.

    • http://bartsz.com/ Bart

      I completely agree, I think they are confusing the kids about what it means to have a healthy relationship. Just like with straight parents, kids should understand that their two dads love each other enough to go to bed and wake up together every night. What kind of example are they setting to their kids sleeping in separate rooms? They will know that other parents do share a room and that their parents for some reason don’t.

      • Mustachio

        It doesn’t matter whether their parents sleep together or not. That’s ridiculous.

    • Quadee

      Thank you! They lost all respect for me when I found out they sleep in separate beds.

  • Joslyn Mychel Mcewen

    There’s nothing wrong with this at all-as long as they Love their KIDS and raise them to Love no matter who it is they are FANS in my book-GOOD JOB GUYS

  • Jon A

    Of course people are surprised when we finally see a mainstream gay couple of colour. The fact that you’re surprised that people are surprised is weird. Look around you from tv shows to everything else. What race do you see that features the most to represent the gay community? Yeah there’s your answer.
    Pictures like this are rare and that’s why people are like “finally”. And I agree too, it’s finally good to see that there are indeed diverse gay couples raising a family.

  • Kaibelf

    I would assume the hip hop culture casually gay-bashing in lyrics every other sentence contributes to this.

    • Resonance

      WTF does HipHop have to do with this? The artists I listen to don’t all have negative opinions regarding homosexuality. Maybe you need to start with religion, smh.

  • HRISTOPH WILSON

    MEN GO AROUND BARE CHESTED EVERYWHERE IN AMERICA AND OTHER NATIONS. IT HAS NEVER BEEN CONSIDERED SENDING THE WRONG MESSAGE. I SUPPOSE NO ONE SEES THIS AT THE BEACH OR SWIMMING POOL. OR MAYBE I AM WRONG …MEN SHOULD WEAR BIKINI TOPS OR SHIRTS AT THE BEACH OR POOL BECAUSE IT MIGHT SEND “THE WRONG MESSAGE” IF THEY ARE BARE CHESTED. WHAT IGNORANT DOUCHE BAGS.

    • :)

      I agree with you, but could you please press your caps lock button?

      • HRISTOPH WILSON

        NO I COULD NOT…I DON’T CARE WHAT ANYONE THINKS. MY LETTERS ARE A TRIVIAL AND SUPERFICIAL PROBLEM OF CONTROL FREAKS. MY MISSION IS TO PISS OFF PEOPLE WHO DON”T LIKE CAPS TO SHOW THEM THAT LIFE GOES ON EVEN IF THEY READ SOMETHING IN ALL CAPS.. LOL

      • HRISTOPH WILSON

        NO I COULD NOT…I DON’T CARE WHAT ANYONE THINKS. MY LETTERS ARE A TRIVIAL AND SUPERFICIAL PROBLEM OF CONTROL FREAKS. MY MISSION IS TO PISS OFF PEOPLE WHO DON”T LIKE CAPS TO SHOW THEM THAT LIFE GOES ON EVEN IF THEY READ SOMETHING IN ALL CAPS.. LOL

        • waffledoctor87

          ExAcTlY. tHeRe Is No PrObLeM wItH cApItAlIzAtIoN.

        • HRISTOPH WILSON

          NO THERE ISN’T BUT THERE IS A PROBLEM WITH MIXING.

        • Mustachio

          DoN’t Be A hAtEr!!

  • Simon Y. Cools

    why is the word “gay” going in and out of quotation marks? I can’t see the difference in meaning between ‘gay couples’ and ‘ “gay” love’.

  • Lola

    Sorry for trying to be supportive.

  • Sarah

    I highly doubt the person who wrote “finally a black gay couple” was a reaction to how few they’ve seen or how unlikely it was! There are tons of black men and women who are gay all around the world and I’m positive this person wasn’t just unaware that they may by chance come across someone to start a family with! However I DO think that this person was expressing relief to seeing a positive family dynamic featuring two black men leading a positive example for parenting in social media sites, as opposed to the norm which is the stereotype of gay men being two white males. Similar to the way they would express relief to see plus sized models in a magazine or diversity in a movie, not because these people shouldn’t play these roles but because society has previously forbade it in the past. As you said media sites such as tumblr and on television seldom feature gay couples but when they do those featured are white men in j crew sweaters and neatly combed and styled hair. In reality there are far more demoraphics who identify as gay.

  • http://www.youtube.com/msangrybutterfly Angry Butterfly

    I think it’s cute.

  • limitfx

    Kind of a tangent — but not really — racism in the gay community and homophobia is unfortunate and comical at best. You’d think a community who has a history that included enslavement for nearly three centuries and went through a century+ of (and continues to go through) marginalization and stigmatization would be the last to contribute to the marginalization that gays face. And vice versa, you’d think a community that is heavily discriminated against, stigmatized and marginalized would be the last one to practice racism, a different form of discrimination.

    As a black gay male, I do not identify with neither the black community nor the gay community. Not only does there not exist a place for me in either community (at the forefront of the gay community is the white male and at the forefront of the black community is the straight male), but I simply do not wish to a part of such communities.

    And just being blunt and honest, I do think that the discrimination, at large, that both the black community and gay community face is well-deserved. You guys can’t cry foul and then play foul.

    • Isaac Colver

      You sound like me, another black gay male who feels the exact same way

  • stubby

    Gays comes in all colors.
    Racists come in all colors.
    Bigots, sexists, etc…
    S o S

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  • Omelio Alexander

    I was definitely please to see this when it came up on my feed. But I was also terrified to go anywhere near comment sections lest I try to climb through the computer screen and strangel someone.

  • https://www.facebook.com/ZionMarQuiese.Devereaux Zion MarQuiese Devereaux

    They need to put on some clothes in front of those children.

    • waffledoctor87

      .-. does anyone even see that they are wearing boxers at the very least?

      • https://www.facebook.com/ZionMarQuiese.Devereaux Zion MarQuiese Devereaux

        And that is supposed to make it better???!!!
        In my home growing up we couldn’t walk around the house half dressed.
        You had to have on shirts, pajamas, sweat pants or pants; tshirts no wife eaters.
        My father and mother were always dressed around the house.
        Ever heard of discretion?
        We had that in our home.

        • Derek Schloesser

          So because someone chooses to not hide their bodies that makes them less of a person than you or your parents. Guess what I don’t wear a shirt very often and my kids are straight a students and peer leaders. You turned out to be judgmental. Hmmmm.

        • https://www.facebook.com/ZionMarQuiese.Devereaux Zion MarQuiese Devereaux

          That’s what you do with YOUR children.
          In my house my son wears clothes.
          But then again ‘you people” are well known for incest its not a surprise.

        • TJ

          LOL…and you people are nothing but criminal thugs.

        • TJ

          There. Do you like my new pic, nigga?

        • Derek Schloesser

          Hold…when you say you people do you mean WHITE or are Gay. Let me school you on a few things. If your referring to white people then yes statistically speaking white people practice incest at a larger rate than blacks, having said that blacks typically have more of a crack problem and black men don’t do shit with their kids at a higher rate than whites but that doesn’t mean every black person is that way. If you were referring to gay people I can say that I don’t honestly know what the rate of incest is within the gay community but I’m guessing it’s not very high. I would also like to point out that Martin Luther King Jr.’s right hand man, Bayard Rustin was an openly gay black man in the 1960’s. He was the chief organizer of the 1963 march on Washington which fought for black rights in America. You would think that a black man yourself would have tolerance for the gay community especially with coming from a community that is used to being treated as second class citizens. Finally I’d like to say that you should always make sure your more educated than the person your arguing with because if your not you turn out looking the way I just made you look.

    • TJ

      You need to mind your own business

      • https://www.facebook.com/ZionMarQuiese.Devereaux Zion MarQuiese Devereaux

        If they didn’t want people in their business they wouldn’t have posted it online.
        Go kill yourself.
        But first, let me know where to send flowers.

        • TJ

          And who forced you to look at it, moron? Look, you are what we call ‘On the down low’ or ‘in the closet’. your obsession with black gay men reveals A LOT about you. (and you’ve got some fatazz ugly friends on FB, too.

          get to the back of the bus and then Go kill yourself, boy. People like you make me wish lynching was still legal.

        • https://www.facebook.com/ZionMarQuiese.Devereaux Zion MarQuiese Devereaux

          I don’t entertain threats from punk ass f*ggots behind a picture.
          When you ready to get them nuts out your mouth and step to me as a man then holla at me.
          I fuck bitches I don’t argue on the internet with them.

        • TJ

          Nor do I, n*gger.

          Now STFU