Being fathers is getting our daughters up at 5:30 am making breakfast getting them dressed for school and putting them on the bus by 6:30 .This is a typical day in our household . It’s not easy but we enjoy every moment and eveny minute of #fatherhood .#proudfathers #blackfathers #prouddads #gaydads
This photo of the couple Kaleb and Kordell getting their daughters ready for school was floating around Twitter yesterday. From my view, this is a beautiful image of two strong fathers taking care of their children; however, Black Twitter didn’t see it that way.
I’m not going to list peoples’ comments or anything of the like because ignorance doesn’t belong on MUSED. It wasn’t the negative comments that surprised me, but the positive ones: “Finally a black gay couple.” Now, that wasn’t all the comments but most of the nice things said hit on two things:
1. The fact that this was a black gay couple.
2. That it was nice to see black men taking care of children.
Are we that sheltered from black gay couples that the general public doesn’t think they exist? But, can you blame them? There is hardly an image of “gay” love that features people of color. In the heat of national marriage equality campaigns, if you google black gay couple you get bunch of Tumblr links. This is not like the in-depth articles when you google the opposite. It’s almost like black gay couples don’t exist – but we do.
Our love does exist, our relationships are real and they are flourishing. There are many of us out here, some of us are parents, some of us are young, and some of us are married or planning to do so. I don’t want our community, of all communities, to not be able to see themselves when they think about what it means to be a couple. It’s very easy to think that love, marriage and commitment are only for our white counterparts. Hell, we barely get a black gay character on TV let alone a couple.
Overall, the point is that Kaleb and Kordell are not unicorns. They are one of many. Their love is beautiful just like the rest of us. We exist and we have to be our own image of “gay” love.
You can also check out BuzzFeed’s 25 Beautiful Photos of Queer Men of Color in Love.