Vance Reyes


‘Porn Guilt’ – After The Cleanup

It’s late and you can’t fall asleep if you wanted to. Your alarm is going off in less than four hours, but all you can think about is cake – and I don’t mean the…


Demonized: (Masculine Gay) Men vs. Women

Why is it that, even as gay men, we feel the need to be validated by women? Wait a minute, let me finish… After a female friend of mine read Asia Brown’s post, “A Letter To My…

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6 Reasons You’re Still Single

Set the scene: you’re getting dressed for – well, nothing, and you’re listening to Beyoncé (of course). As the playlist progresses, “Me, Myself and I” comes on and you shed a single, solitary tear while…