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Your Guide On How To Get The ‘Trade’

For some time now, I thought I would never share my secrets of the trade, so to speak. I’d sit calmly on the park bench with friends and get eyes framed with fitted caps that…

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We Will Always See Race & Sexuality

If you are reading this there is a good chance you are a person of color, you are male and you are (or identify) with something other than heterosexuality. Welcome my brothers! If you don’t…

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Setting Your Expectations To The Side

I gave a speech at my eighth grade graduation about accomplishing life goals. I stood in front of families, friends, and my fellow students proclaiming to them my future plans for the rest of my…

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What Can We Do To #BringBackOurGirls?

News broke last week about more than 200 girls abducted from a school in the town of Chibok in Nigeria. After being abducted from their school, the girls were dragged into the forest where nearly…

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Declining Invitations To Go Back

During brunch on a recent Sunday, a good friend told me that she was in the process of planning her high school reunion. After doing some basic math, I realized that my own reunion would…

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10 Black Gay Poets Everyone Should Know

As we watch National Month of Poetry come to a close, we cannot forget about our brothers. That is, our black gay male poets who have paved and are paving the way for many of…

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9 Black Gay Rappers You Should Listen To

Did you know there is a group of black gay rappers who are just as talented, creative and stylish as some of your mainstream faves? And with the surge of queer artists coming out–no pun–over…

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I Don’t Know If I’m ‘Out’, I’m A Grown Man

Who the hell invented this proverbial closet I’m supposed to be “out” of? In fact, the term “out” isn’t one I’m sure I identify with. Does “out” mean that my Facebook should say “Interested in…

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What I Learned By Being Faced With Black Queer Suicide

Albert Einstein, when hypothesizing about how our universe worked, would do things referred to as “thought experiments.” Essentially, he was just daydreaming, but since these idle daydreams birthed absolute brilliant information about our universe, we…