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But This Is ‘The Life’

We were young. We bartered our souls for the “life.” A life of sequin tank tops, spiked leather, sharp eyebrows and sharp tongues. The life of many who have fallen and those who have gracefully…

Love Of The Black Queer Variety Is ***Flawless

  Love of the Black queer variety is flawless. It’s also messy. Or as Baldwin noted, a battle. It’s political. Sensual. Affective. Spiritual. Communal. Personal. And it’s radically Black and queer and magical. It’s the…

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Your Guide On How To Get The ‘Trade’

For some time now, I thought I would never share my secrets of the trade, so to speak. I’d sit calmly on the park bench with friends and get eyes framed with fitted caps that…

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Setting Your Expectations To The Side

I gave a speech at my eighth grade graduation about accomplishing life goals. I stood in front of families, friends, and my fellow students proclaiming to them my future plans for the rest of my…

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Declining Invitations To Go Back

During brunch on a recent Sunday, a good friend told me that she was in the process of planning her high school reunion. After doing some basic math, I realized that my own reunion would…